The Marshmallow Test is often boasted as a fundamental self-help book. Yes, self-control is vital for success, but is The Marshmallow Test the best book to learn it from? Here’s my review:
The Marshmallow Test was a Stanford experiment led by psychologist Walter Mischel. It tested the ability of children to delay rewards (aka wait). And that kind of self-control is something you’d want more of, too.
Walter and his colleagues discovered that children’s self-control is a major factor to their future development. In addition, the book goes through how you can improve your own self-control.
Here’s what the marshmallow test is about in a nutshell:
- Analyzing how self-control works (the author, Walter, is a psychologist so the science is comprehensive)
- Analyzing the effects of self-control on children’s future (hint: better self-control = better future)
- Exploring ways to improve your own self-control
Why you need more self-control
Imagine you had perfect self-control. What would your life look like?
- Do you have a wife and kids?
- Are you extremely wealthy?
- Is your body athletic?
- Do you know 5 languages?
- Did you finally learn the guitar?
Yeah, you’d be worth a million bucks. All men and women will want to be with you. You’ll be spending your Friday mornings picking in which of your yachts you should play golf.
Of course, you don’t need, nay, you don’t want perfect self-control. You’d become a robot. But what about better self-control? What about just one yacht to play golf in? Or just getting better in the things you want?
Enter the marshmallow test.
The marshmallow test
What is the marshmallow test?
Great question, thanks for asking! The marshmallow test or “The Stanford Marshmallow Experiment” is a simple way to evaluate self-control.
The test consisted of young children being offered a choice:
- A small reward (not surprisingly a marshmallow and sometimes a cookie or a pretzel)
- Two small rewards (with a catch)
The kids obviously wanted the two marshmallows, but there was a catch. They had to wait for the researcher to come back for 15 minutes. Small kid, sweet treat, and an otherwise empty room, you can guess what happened.
I bet you laughed at those minions suffering… eh well, I did. You obviously are a better person than I am.
Now, imagine this:
- You’ve just got your salary today
- There is a new iPhone out (or any another shiny item you want)
- You really should save money to buy a place to live (or another good investment)
Exactly the same image as those kids!
The marshmallow test found that children (and people) who can wait longer do better in life. The more you are in control and able to delay gratification, the better you fare in life. Better self-control leads to better grades, education, weight, and wealth.
How to improve your self-control
I really can’t go into too much detail without making this post enormously long, so I’ll just list some of the methods described in the book.
Walter’s techniques to improve your self-control:
- Reframe your urges. Kids who were told to imagine the marshmallows as puffs of cloud were much more successful. Kids who were told to think about the sweetness coped the worst.
Note: You can use this in the reverse direction, as well. Take smoking, for example, next time you’re having a smoke focus on the (hopefully) bad taste on your tongue.
- Distract yourself. Although distractions a disaster while you’re working, they can be very helpful while you want to resist temptation.
- Visualize the future. People who see digitally aged photographs of themselves save more. The same goes for any long-term decision that’ll benefit your future. I visualize old Jordan every time I start procrastinating too much.
Should you buy The Marshmallow Test?
Yes. I highly recommend it.
So, I hope I managed to convince you that:Self-control is key to self-development. You will go far if you improve it!Click To Tweet
Is The Marshmallow Test the only book that can help you with that? No. But, as the progenitor of most of what we know about self-control, it’s a hell of a good start!
Should you get it? Yes, I believe it’s worth your time.
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